Thank you notes are often an overlooked component of weddings, but saying thank you is almost as important as saying “I do”. Here’s a few tips to help you get started.
Get Organized
It can be hard to keep track of gifts and whether you sent a card or not. To avoid any confusion, create a spreadsheet of the guest list with their addresses. That way you can track when the gift was received, where the gift came from, and when you sent the card.
Who to Thank
While not required, we recommend sending a thank you to everyone who attended, even if they did not give you a gift. However, you don’t need to send multiple thank yous to the same household, instead address the note to the couple or family. Don’t forget to thank your parents for the role they played on wedding day. You can also send thank yous to your vendors for making your day a success!
What to Say
Thank you notes should be handwritten and heartfelt. Start your message by thanking your guests for coming. If they bought you a gift, express your appreciation and how that gift brings you joy. It is always nice to add a personal touch to make each note special and unique. If you need a little inspiration, we have included a template below:
Dear [guest name],
Thank you so much for the lovely gift. We enjoy cooking together and can ensure you these knives will be put to good use. We loved celebrating our wedding day with you and hope to see you soon!
All the best,
[Your names]
When to Send
You will likely start receiving gifts well before your wedding date, and it is proper etiquette to send a prompt thank you. We recommend sending a card within one month of receiving a gift. It may seem tedious, but it is better to tackle thank yous as gifts come in rather than waiting for them to pile up. If you prefer to send all thank you notes at once, you can send your guest a quick text or email to let them know you received their gift and inform them a formal thank you is coming.
After your wedding, the general rule of thumb is to send wedding thank you cards within three months. Thank you notes are a perfect way to connect with each of your guests and recount some of the memories you shared together on your big day.
With these tips in mind, you should feel confident writing thank you notes with ease!
